Do Not Burden Others, Be Burdened By Them

"Do not burden people according to your own pleasure, but burden yourselves according to their pleasures so long as they do not violate the Shari'a."

- Imam Al-Ghazali, Ayyuha l-Walad, 131

Trying to be Godly or Like God?

Sometimes servants of God try to behave like the Lord, without a doubt.
Sometimes servants of God behave like servants.
When they behave like servants, they are truly like the Lord.
When they behave like the Lord, they are in a sorry condition.

- Ibn Arabi, "Fusus al-hikam"

The Creatures as Veils

God made the creatures as veils.
He who knows them as such is led back to Him,
but he who takes them as real is barred from His presence.

~ Ibn al-Arabi

Poverty

Poverty is not complete until one likes giving more than receiving.

-Abu Hafs Haddad in "'Attar: Tadhkirat"

Submit Before the Will of God

If you are destined for good fortune you will be blessed;
if afflictions have been ordained, no matter where you hide they will seek you out.
Submit therefore before the will of God;
be grateful in well-being and endure adversity with fortitude that His light may radiate within your being.

-Sheikh Abdul Qadir Jillani, Futhul Ghaib

Practice Patience

Practice patience; it is the essence of praise.
Have patience, for that is true worship.
No other worship is worth as much.
Have patience; patience is the key to all relief.

-Rumi, "Mathnawi"

How Allah Keeps us Attracted to Him....

Since Allah (God) wants us to know him in all his Majesty and Glory, He continues to create interesting puzzles to attract us to Him. For the architect, architecture, for the psychologist psychology, and for the healer, the Oneness of ALL with God...

- Ali Ansari

What We Do With Every Moment Determines Our Identity

It’s not about who you are, i.e. your identity, but rather whether you are truly conscious every moment. For the one who is preoccupied with trying to be someone or something cannot be truly conscious, for his or her mind is being used for the remembrance of self rather than God.

The Path to God through Prayer

Prayer is an instrument through which novices find their path to God.
Thus ablution symbolizes repentance;
the Qibla, a spiritual guide;
standing in prayer becomes self-mortification;
the recitation of the Qur’an, inner meditation;
bowing the head, humility;
prostration, self-knowledge;
profession of faith, intimacy;
and salutation becomes detachment from the world and bondage of stations.

-Al-Hujwiri, “The Kashf al-Mahjub”

Adversity is the Threshold to Freedom

Do not be ruled by lust; seek freedom by following the righteous.
Mere claims of piety will not earn you inner freedom.
Remain patient in adversity to attain peace, for adversity is the threshold to freedom.
Those who cannot persevere are held back from the doors of Mercy.

- Sheikh Abdul Qadir Jillani

God is the Real Provider

Do not seek sustenance from people.
God is the real Provider.
If He wills a certain person to be the means of your livelihood, do not consider that person to be in control of your destiny.
Have faith and be certain in the knowledge that your daily bread does not depend upon any mortal, but upon God who created all.

- Al-Hajwiri, "The Kashf al-Mahjub"

Healing Children....

Forcing the issue! (As children) we won't manifest (our best) as long as there is something else on our minds. And what's always on our minds? At the root of it is the dilemma of the need for self-justification, arising from an unwanted and unconscious compulsion to please our parents or to try to escape from pleasing our parents. So to that I say this. This attempt to please our parents is the root of all neuroses. It is our search for unconditional love. But even after we've found unconditional love it's hard for us to release our neurosis, our neurotic searching. Putting our neuroses back where they came from is integral to self healing. Children can never please their parents, it's impossible and they shouldn't have to. Parents must be pleased with their children, which means they must first be pleased with themselves. If they are not (and how many do you know that are?), they look to be pleased and project their need to be pleased onto their children. In effect, they put their children in the position of needing to please them - which can never be done because they cannot be pleased if they are not already. But if children can negotitate the shift from pleasing their parents to healing them, they can set themselves free and gain the approval they're looking for.

- Ali Ansari

Perfection on the Inside

When you purify your hearts just as you purify your raiment, union with God will follow.
You cannot become a Sufi by merely wearing coarse woolen shirts and following strict ritual, pretending to be pious while inside your hearts you bear malice and avarice.
A real Sufi has attained a state of perfection on the inside.
If you sincerely seek union with God, then seek Him inside your hearts and leave the world alone.

-Sheikh Abdul Qadir Jillani, “Fayuz E Yazdani”

Two Instruments

If you devote yourself to God in this world,
He will admit you among His chosen servants in the hereafter.
Such devotion, however, demands sacrifice and self-denial, the two instruments that make union with God possible.

-Al-Hujwiri, "The Kashf al-Mahjub"

The Night is Gone....

Lord, the night is gone.
The dawn has lighted the sky.
How I long to know if You accepted or rejected my prayers.
Comfort me, Lord, for only you can comfort this state of mine.
You gave me life and nurtured me; Yours is all the praise.
If You would ever drive me away from Your door, I would never abandon it for the sake of Your love, which I carry in my heart.

-Rabi'a, "Rabi'a the Mystic"

How Transcendent and Immaculate is Allah

How transcendent and immaculate is God!
He has neither place, nor time, nor beginning, nor temporal continuity, nor posterior eternity, nor temporal priority, nor terminal end, and yet all the while, He is neither occupied with, nor seeks succor from, that which He has brought into being.
Nonetheless, He is just in all affairs wherein His commandments are issued to people.

- Shibli in Sarraj Tusi: "Kitab al-luma"

The Good Muslim Syndrome

Being a cyber counselor for the Muslim community, I feel it is time to say something about what I like to call the Good Muslim Syndrome.

My latest question has to do with a brother married to a Christian woman, who is starting to feel that he needs to divorce his wife because of the fear that when he takes her back to his home (Muslim) country, he fears that 'his people' will not accept her (and him, ostensibly) and scold him for not being 'a good Muslim.' Mind you there is nothing wrong with this wife and even he admits that though Christian, she is in many ways a "better Muslim" than him. She is even gaining an increasing interest in Islam and is more than willing to raise their children as Muslims.

The point of the story is that this young man is ready to divorce a very kind and pious woman, without due cause, out of his fear of not being seen by others as a "good Muslim."

The problem with this whole 'good Muslim' thing is that - as in the example above - it usually refers to how we want others to perceive us, rather than who we really are. It actually has little to do with how Allah sees us, or how we wish to be in His eyes, or how much we yearn to know our Lord. In essence, the good Muslim is the one that - similar to a five year old boy - is trying to make himself out to be good - to be seen - to win his father's love and adoration. However, Allah is not a human father. He is the Creator. He created all of us and everything else and continues to do so unceasingly every moment of every day of existence. He created us on something called fitra and it is only because of our ignorance, heedlessness and forgetfulness of Him that we live not in accordance with that fitra, i.e. outside the state of pure surrender to Him. The "good Muslim," in fact, is the essence of every single one of us, it is our pure and original state. That, and only that, is the good Muslim. Therefore, the only thing we need to try to do is to live in remembrance of that pure state and to STAY THERE. This means living for Allah, acting for Allah, and doing for Allah, not for others and for how others might label us.

The "Good Muslim" is a farce. The Good Muslim is actually Catholic by implying that we are born in sin and only by 'being good' can we be saved. Nay! We are Muslims, not Christians! There is no work to do other than the work that allows us to be our true selves, to live according to that pure self, that original state of fitra. However, by trying to be 'good Muslims' we end up wearing masks which are by nature, false. Rather than purifying the self and returning to our true selves, we end up piling more falsehood on our hearts and actually end up further away from truth than closer to it. These masks that we wear are nothing more than persona, an act, a pretending to be something for others which is not actually who we really are. But Allah knows our hidden truth. He knows who, in fact, we are trying to please through our behaviors and our "personality."

There is no such thing, in fact, as a Good Muslim. We are either in a state of Islam or we are not. As such, we are either Muslims or we are something else. The work is to learn and live to serve and please Allah, and by doing so, by discovering who we truly are and what greatness lies within. And most importantly, to do this not for anyone else's sake but His.

Ramadan in Kuwait

Ramadan in Kuwait

by Sami Alrabaa

Muslims and Christians have something in common. Amazed? Carry on reading. Both are secularizing their religious festivities. The Christians are secularizing Christmas and Muslims are secularizing their Ramadan. How?

Three months before Christmas, the German markets, for example, are loaded Christmas confections. Stollen and ginger biscuits are for sale everywhere. Many people are already in search of Christmas presents for their loved ones. The closer Christmas is, the more hectic people get. Marlies says, “I really don’t know what to give my son and husband for Christmas. It is so difficult to find the right present. They have got everything.” She is now shopping for ideas. Her son and husband are doing the same.

Christmas, which marks the birth of a Prophet, Jesus Christ, who was sent by God to spread peace, mercy, and justice, is reduced to commerce, to tediously looking for suitable gifts for loved ones. The majority of Christians have forgotten the original meaning of Christmas and simply changed it into a mundane commercial practice. Many of those Christians who go to the church pray like parrots. They recite the message of Christ without pondering on its deep meaning. Maybe only the poor among Christians pray genuinely and find in Christ’s message a consolation in their miserable situation. They hope that on the Day of Judgment they would be rewarded for their endurance of hardship and deprivation. The well-off Christians have completely forgotten about Christ’s message. They are busy trying to live paradise on earth.

How about Muslims? They are not better off. The simple message of the fasting month is also ignored. In fact, fasting is a commandment that reminds us of how it feels to starve, how the poor live. At least once a year, Muslims are called upon to live like the poor, at least in terms of food. The majority of us Muslims act completely against the message of Ramadan. We have reduced Ramadan to a food festival, to a food fair. The amount of food consumed during Ramadan in most Muslim countries is doubled. We focus on food. We prepare and eat the most delicious, the richest and most conspicuous dishes. On top of that we work less and sleep most of the time. Especially in the affluent Arab Gulf countries, government employees in particular, go to work around 9 in the morning. Around noon they leave under the pretext, they would pray. They go home and sleep until fasting-break time. Someone who stuffs his stomach with all kinds of rich food, cannot feel hungry from Fajer (dawn) to noon. In other words, the majority fast for 4-5 hours. Hence no opportunity is left to feel how the poor feel around the year.

By the way, and because of overeating and lack of exercise, the number of stomach diseases and other diseases, especially diabetes, sky-rocket. Dr. Salem at Al Sabah Hospital says, “In Ramadan, people dump in their stomachs all kinds of food in tremendous quantities."
In addition, how many Muslims ponder over the rest of Ramadan message like have mercy on the poor, love your fellow humans, do not be selfish, act justly, etc.? It is in reality very small. Other than over-eating, very few principles of the message of Ramadan are observed despite warnings by preachers and physicians not to spend the holy month only overeating and sleeping. But who listens?

But of course, everybody is happy, it is Ramadan, certainly, very often, not for religious reasons. Students get shorter class schedules and government employees (90% of the Kuwaiti labour force) work fewer hours. Shortcomings and laziness are blamed on “fasting”.

The poor in Kuwait, largely expatriates, whether Muslims or otherwise, welcome Ramadan most. It is their sole opportunity to eat a decent meal over a whole month once a year. These meals are offered for free by charity organizations.

At the end of the day, who is the winner before Christmas and during Ramadan? Certainly manufacturers, producers, and traders. They enjoy huge amounts of profit over these “religious” festivities.

Losers are both Muslims and Christians. Christians reach Christmas stressed out and exhausted by their search for gifts and Muslims get sick and produce less. The spiritual aspects of their festivities are simply undermined. It is a pity!

Simple Deeds Worthy of Paradise

I saw a man in Paradise for a deed as simple as cutting down a tree that stood in the middle of a road, causing wayfarers much distress.

-The Prophet Muhammad (SAW), as reported by Ibn Umar

Patience in Adversity....

Do not lose hope in Allah, for He is the Creator.
He will create another way for you.
Do not flee from your trials; patience in adversity is the foundation of all virtue, of compassion and sainthood.
Patience is the foundation, and without a sound foundation you cannot build a monument.

-Sheikh Abdul Qadir Jillani, "Fayuz E Yazdani"